You’ll cry and cry the whole night through. Your cheating heart will tell on you. ~ Hank Williams
Do you suspect your woman is cheating? Unfortunately, where there is smoke there is usually fire, and women have affairs just like men, although statistically the rate of affairs is much higher among men.
Currently, new studies indicate that between 35% and 40% of all wives cheat on husbands while the statistics for men are between 40% and 50%. A relationship cannot survive without trust and nothing destroys that bond more corrosively than infidelity. If your woman is cheating, as painful as it is, you must face the facts and deal with them. Check out some warning signs below.
Many affairs begin at work and could be between an employee, boss, consultant or client. When your lady leaves for work, think about the following: Is she spending more time taking care of herself to look nice at work? Is she leaving the house earlier than usual? Does she stay later and take more business trips? These are all reasons to be suspicious, although by themselves they prove nothing. It is the collective signs that complete the picture.
Has her behavior changed from her usual pattern? Is she becoming preoccupied with changing her hair-style or color and shopping for more revealing clothes? Is she more interested in other things when it comes time to go to bed?
Has your lady recently taken up a new sport or activity? Again, by itself this indicates nothing, but as part of a puzzle, it may be a piece that fits into a bigger and more unpleasant picture.
Has your woman become more secretive about taking phone calls receiving mail etc? Are there more calls than usual coming in on her cell phone? Does she lower her voice or find some excuse to leave the room when she speaks into the phone?
It is up to you to face all the facts squarely in the eye and put all of these pieces together, because if you confront your cheating partner, she will deny everything and you may have lost an important edge over the situation.
If she doesn’t think you suspect her, it might be easier to trip her up even though that kind of winning is hardly a desirable victory. Check her computer and which sites she is visiting, obtain (by hook or by crook) her cell phone records and ferret out unfamiliar numbers. You may even have to follow her to find the answers you need, but this should only be done as a last resort.
While the last thing you may want to do is follow your lady around, you may need to do so in order to discover the truth. It takes courage to do this and can be very difficult, but you owe it to yourself (and children, if they are involved).
Hiring a private detective can be very expensive and if you have the time you can actually set up surveillance on your own. If you believe your lady receives a male visitor at your home you can set up a miniature, hidden camera. You can also purchase software that can monitor her computer activity.
Finding out the answer is only the beginning of a long and heartbreaking road ahead. Where do you go as a couple from there? For some, the path will lead to healing and recovery, and for others someplace else. Whatever caused the affair has to be addressed and your woman must understand that betrayal cannot be easily forgiven and she must acknowledge the pain she has caused you before any healing can even begin.
Restoring trust is difficult and sometimes the damage is too severe to repair. Whatever action you choose to take, be strong and follow through. Like that old saying, it is the truth and only the truth that can set you free.
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I don't think setting up surveilance really goes a long way toward "restoring trust" in the relationship. If you're that suspicous–there's something wrong with her or there's something wrong with you. You might want to just move on when you find yourself setting up hidden cameras and highlighting old cell phone bills.
I agree with Joe. If you're going to such extensive lengths, it's clear that the trust in your relationship is already deeply corroded. If you honestly think your partner is cheating and you're unwilling to talk to them about it, or if you are so convinced that they're going to lie that you feel the need to hack into their e-mail, you don't *have* a relationship. Just leave already.
Becarful what you wish for, You just might get it.
If your that interested in what she is doing and feeling. Take the time to listen to her favorite song.I am 40 and can tell you my favorite song will tell you what is going on in me far quicker than I will. Also rather than putting all the time into surveilance, GPS her phone thats how I caught my ex, I already knew he was I just needed confirmation. All you need to do is creat an online account with you carrier. Then activate the GPS and it will show where a person is in real time. Keep in mind, cheating is not just her fault. It takes two people to mess up a relationship. Are you ready to face your own short comming?
This is such an important topic, I wish more people would write about it, not just spamming other people’s ideas. Researched relationship content is hard to find on the Internet these days.
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Sick sick n sick is what u'll become.nowing cause hatred and anger that can ruin your health.Trust God and i tell you the truth she or he will not be by yourside for long for something miracle will happen and will seperate you both.The unfaithfull one will go on getting what he or she sowed and the faithfull one will have an angel as new lover.Believe it's the everlasting truth about this life.
Truth is guys until you been there you wont understand, sometimes women are so cute with cheating a guy will never know until the crap hits the fan. In saying that ….I did the above recommend stuff and the truth is, that was the only way I could catch my cheating wife, she was good, really good. It is not sick to want to find out the truth and when I did I moved on immediately. It took me a while to get over her but because I saw it with my eyes it was easier than trying to imagine it because am sure with her sly attitude she would have convinced me it was my mind playing tricks on me.
The idea is great by me who don't want to find out if there wife is cheating on them and playing tricks. Thats why i use cell phone tapping software